How to Stop Feeling Guilty When You Can’t Be With Your Dog 24/7
Raise your paw if you’ve ever felt the dog mom guilt so hard that you canceled plans or sprinted home like you’re in a rom-com montage – all because of that one look your dog gave you when you grabbed your keys. Yep, same here.
Being a dog mom means you care deeply. But somewhere between the pup snuggles and treat jar refills, we started believing that being apart = being a bad mom.
Let’s unpack where that dog mom guilt is really coming from.
First, the Cold Nose Truth: Your Dog Sleeps – A Lot.
Spoiler Alert: They nap. A lot. You’re doing fine.
While you’re spiraling over leaving them for a few hours, they’re halfway into their third nap of the day.
Most dogs sleep 12–16 hours a day. Puppies and seniors? Closer to 18.
So while you’re refreshing the dog cam and worrying if they’re emotionally scarred… they’re in REM sleep, dreaming about cheese. You’re not abandoning them – you’re literally just not their blanket right now.
The Guilt Isn’t About Them. It’s About You.
You feel guilty because you love them. Because society says “good” moms always prioritize their dog’s needs over their own. And because TikTok said crate time is traumatic, and doggie daycare is daycare-shaming (insert eye roll).
Here’s the truth:
- You’re allowed to have a life.
- If you miss the mid-morning fetch session, you’re still a good dog mom.
- Your dog isn’t keeping score. They’re just excited you exist.
Enrichment > Constant Attention
Dogs don’t need 24/7 access to you – they need mental stimulation, security, and consistent love.
Here’s what to focus on instead:
- Puzzle toys with peanut butter or frozen yogurt? You’re a genius.
- Soothing music or dog TV on in the background? Luxury spa vibes.
- A safe, cozy crate or corner they associate with calm? Total sanctuary.
- A sniffari-style walk before you leave? Now that’s a morning meeting.
Give them tools to thrive without you – it builds confidence, not confusion.
Reframing Dog Mom Guilt: The Goodbye Ritual That Builds Trust
Instead of apologizing every time you leave, here’s how to reframe dog mom guilt and focus on positive messaging.
“I’m leaving because I trust you. I love you. And I’ll be back soon.”
Say it out loud. Make it your ritual. Then, leave with confidence. Your dog reads your energy more than your schedule.
RELATED: If you’re navigating life as a first-time pup parent, check out our New Puppy Survival Guide.
Try This: The “Savvy Solo Time Checklist”
Before you head out, ask:
✅ Did they get exercise or outside time?
✅ Are they physically comfortable (not too hot/cold)?
✅ Do they have safe enrichment or toys?
✅ Have I made parting low-drama?
That’s it – you’ve done your part.
Let’s Retire These Thoughts:
- “They’re bored and suffering without me.” Nope. They’re relaxing.
- “A real dog mom wouldn’t leave.” You are one. Right now.
- “They’ll forget I love them.” You smell like safety to them. They know.
You Deserve a Life, Too
The best thing you can do for your dog isn’t to be with them 24/7. It’s showing up as a rested, happy, present version of yourself.
So go on that lunch date. Run your errands. Chase your dreams. Your pup will be fine – and thrilled when you return.
They don’t need you every second. They need you for the long run.
